Therapy and Counseling Center
for teens & adults in Newton, Sparta, Vernon
and Sussex County New Jersey
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973 . 300 . 5338
How We Can Show Love to Our Teens
Respect is an important aspect of love. Give your teens the same respect you expect them to give you.
Here are some examples:
You have every right to expect that they will not use profanity in your presence if you do not use profanity in their presence.
If you expect them to say "thank you" when you do something for them, try saying it when they do something for you (like taking out the garbage).
Other ways to show love:
Saying "love you" at the end of a phone conversation is fine but try saying it after a serious disagreement or argument is resolved (even if they are not happy with the resolution). Don't get upset if your teen doesn't respond. They heard it.
A hug is wonderful but more important is a touch on the shoulder as you walk by them. If they ask why you touched them, the answer is, "No special reason, I just wanted to."
Don't become overly upset over minor things. Doing a chore an hour or two after you ask is never the end of the world.
Go to every game, play, concert, every everything your teen does. If you have to work or have some other commitment and absolutely cannot go, make sure you call or text to ask how it went. And if that isn’t possible, remember to ask about it when you get home. Don’t wait for your teen to bring it up first.
Let them see anger in your eyes when you are angry with them but never let them see hatred. Be sure you know the difference.